Right I always congrats myself for what I can do and be thankful for that

I don't have a magical answer unfortunately even after 10+ years dealing with this. At this point the best I can say is to adjust your expectations. Instead of beating yourself up for what you're not doing, congratulate yourself for what you did do. For example, I have piles of laundry that need to be put up but my son wanted to make an oreo cake with me. I don't have energy to do everything (obviously) so I chose to make the cake with him and load the dishwasher. It's not much, but I know I made the right choice to be with my son. So I pat myself on the back and say the clothes may not be folded/away but they are clean and that's damn good enough for right now! I guess what I'm getting at is focus on the important things and don't sweat the small stuff. I hope that helps a little. I know it sucks to have this disease.